One PositionGeneral
The position that I am describing is the position that was long
held by the Church. It does not describe
the liberty and the conciliation of modern positions on the topic. Although this position is hard to communicate
to hurting people, it must be understood it claims to be the posture of Scripture. At the outset it is important to understand
that God forgives all sin. “Therefore I
tell you, every sin and blasphemy will be forgiven people, but the blasphemy
against the Spirit will not be forgiven.” (Matthew 12:31, ESV). Forgiveness and grace are available
for the sins of divorce and remarriage.
However the consequence of such sins may limit a person in certain
ministries (e.g., “Therefore an overseer
must be above reproach, the husband of one wife . . ..”[1] )
The
Overarching Principle
There is a governing principle in Scripture that gives insight to
all less-clear passages. “And this second thing you do. You cover the Lord’s
altar with tears, with weeping and groaning because he no longer regards the
offering or accepts it with favor from your hand. But you say, “Why does he
not?” Because the Lord was witness between you and the wife of your youth, to
whom you have been faithless, though she is your companion and your wife by
covenant. Did he not make them one, with a portion of the Spirit in their
union? And what was the one God seeking? Godly offspring. So guard yourselves
in your spirit, and let none of you be faithless to the wife of your youth.
“For the man who does not love his wife but divorces her, says the Lord, the
God of Israel, covers his garment with violence,
says the Lord of hosts. So guard yourselves in your spirit, and do not be
faithless.”” (Malachi 2:13–16, ESV)
Genesis 2:21-24 describes the reality that God created marriage
and Jesus says that God created marriage for permanence. We read in Matthew 19:4–6 (ESV)
4 He answered,
“Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male
and female, 5 and said,
‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his
wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So they are no
longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.” [Emphasis
mine]
So the overarching principle in the Bible is that marriage is indissoluble. But there is one exception.
The
Exception Clause
Modern writers will take us to Matthew 5:32 and Matthew 19:9, but
I intend to show that these are not exception clauses in the sense they are
using them. The exception clause is
really found in Romans 7:2–3 (ESV),
“2 For a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but
if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly,
she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her
husband is alive. But if her husband dies, she is free from that law, and if
she marries another man she is not an adulteress.”
Summary
The Biblical position is clear: marriage is God’s design; it is a
permanent relationship until death.
This is the posture that interprets all other passages of some dispute.
Disputed
Passages
The most disputed passage that some people go to in order to
permit divorce is found in Matthew 19:9
(ESV), “And I say to you: whoever divorces his
wife, except for sexual immorality, and marries another, commits adultery.” The ESV translates the word πορνεία (porneia)
sexual immorality, as do most other translations. The KJV translates it fornication. The word is only used in one another place in
that form and that is found in 1 Corinthians 5:1 (ESV), “It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality [πορνεία] among you,
and of a kind that is not tolerated even among pagans, for a man has his
father’s wife.” That porneia is clearly
incest. Leviticus 18:6-18 describes this
prohibition. Jesus is clearly affirming this.
In other words if a marriage occurs and it is learned that it is an
unlawful marriage (the partners are too closely related) then the marriage is
annulled. To give liberty to any sexual
misconduct, including adultery, is to move outside the specificity of the text.
Some also give liberty to a believing spouse divorcing an
unbelieving spouse if the unbeliever leaves.
“If any woman has a
husband who is an unbeliever, and he consents to live with her, she should not
divorce him . . . But if the unbelieving partner separates, let it be so. In
such cases the brother or sister is not enslaved. God has called you to peace.” (1 Corinthians 7:13–15, ESV). The KJV says the person is not under bondage
and the NIV translates it “not bound”.
Some interpret this to mean that the bonds of the marriage contract can
be broken. However there is no
permission granted for divorce and remarriage here. This simply frees the believer from the
constant, wearying pursuit of their partner. But it does not sanction divorce
or remarriage.
Another common argument that is especially used to permit
remarriage is found in Deuteronomy 24.
““When a man takes a
wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has
found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and
puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his
house, and if she goes and becomes another man’s wife, and the latter man hates
her and writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends
her out of his house, or if the latter man dies, who took her to be his wife,
then her former husband, who sent her away, may not take her again to be his
wife, after she has been defiled, for that is an abomination before the Lord. And you shall not bring sin upon
the land that the Lord your God is
giving you for an inheritance.” (Deuteronomy 24:1–4, ESV)
Rather than give a tacit permission for divorce and remarriage,
this passage protects the woman
from exploitation by her first husband (requiring two or more dowries). More importantly if a woman was divorced and
married another man, she could not return and marry her first husband. When
that union was broken by another marriage, adultery was committed. Jesus
supports this interpretation when He says, “But I say to you that everyone who divorces his wife, except on the
ground of sexual immorality, makes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a
divorced woman commits adultery.” (Matthew 5:32, ESV). Even if she remarried
her former husband, adultery was committed because the original union was broken.
Another passage often
used to substantiate divorce is drawn from Ezra. When he learned that the priests had married
foreign wives, we read: “And Ezra the
priest stood up and said to them, “You have broken faith and married foreign
women, and so increased the guilt of Israel. Now then make confession to the Lord, the God of your fathers and do his
will. Separate yourselves from the peoples of the land and from the foreign
wives.”” (Ezra 10:10–11, ESV).
Some people take that command “separate yourselves” to mean
divorce. The Hebrew word is בָּדַל “badal” which
means to separate and can mean “make a distinction”. It is likely that these wives were to dwell
separately unless, perhaps, they came to know the God of Israel. Ezra did not want their foreign gods to be in
the homes of the Israelites.
Conclusion
Marriage is a lifetime covenant until death. There is no permission in the Scriptures for
divorce or remarriage. Jesus said that “Because of your hardness of heart Moses allowed you
to divorce your wives, but from the beginning it was not so.” (Matthew 19:8, ESV), but He gave no such allowance.
Only a hard-hearted, sinful person would ever initiate divorce.
